are using alpha 39 or b4? because there may be some problems updating to release 40 and on. In release 40 we got the event manager (a super powerful customizble tool.)
If all you did was move buttons around and not change events or anything than all you have to do is download and unzip the new xlobby version into a directory. Then copy the default folder from the old skin directory and paste it into the new skins directory after renaming it. You will then have 2 skins: default and yournewname. Load xlobby with the new .exe. Then you can hit f2 and change skins to yournewname and restart xlobby. Also if you have any custom buttons or backgrounds you will need to copy them to the appropriate folder in the new install.
The default will remain intact.
Another way would be to copy and paste the old xml files (pages) that were changed from the old Skin/Defualt folder to the new one (overwriting the new xmls). This is handy if you changed events or stuff.
Dont muck up any of your previous install of xlobby, just create a new directory with the new version to see how it all works out. There will be a new .exe file to launch the new version.
Also because youre upgrading, there will be new features & tools, explore and take advantage of them.
Any problems let us know.
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